Something occurred to me the other day. As some of you know, and the rest of you are about to know, I’m going through a “transition.” That’s what they call it right? When you shutdown a company that has taken all that you have, you move in to your friend’s basement with your fiancé and your dog, and you take any work you can while you get your feet back under you… a “Transition.” It builds character, helps you determine what is important in life, and really provides some perspective.
I caught myself stewing over my situation, you know, the one that I created for myself. I was frustrated with the lack of things, the lack of money, the discomfort of disappointing customers, the frustration of debts to pay. It is easy to get sidetracked into this downward spiral of grouchiness and irritation.
So there I was, working on a project, getting all sorts of frustrated and mad at the world because a screw wouldn’t go in the hole. I mean, I was getting really bent and then it started to snowball…Then I stopped and recalled a passage from “The Dude and The Zen Master” (I’ll write a review on it soon…but you might enjoy it)
“Buddha’s first teachings was that life is suffering. He didn’t just mean heartrending, painful, traumatic suffering, but something more basic than that. It doesn’t matter how good we have it or how basically happy we are, things arise every day that leave us feeling discontented or disappointed.”
That is so true. The book goes on to speak about going with it, embracing it, jamming and living. The moment I had the thought I immediately pulled out of the spiral and chuckled. It’s a freaking screw! The business shutdown is normal, that is what happens when you walk on the edge and you try something new. You stumble. It happens. It’s ok. You recover (eventually) and move on to other things using the experience to strengthen your resolve, to build your mental resilience. It’s the natural law; things happen that we do not expect, that we do not want, and that seem unfair. We deal and move on, or not. It’s that simple.
But that is not what we teach ourselves in society. We teach ourselves, or are taught, that we should seek comfort and pleasure at all times. That we should avoid suffering and when suffering happens we should react to it, tell everyone, change, get angry and write a review about it…lol, I am WAY guilty of this. But the things that have served me the best in growing and developing were the ones in which I suffered the most. Boy Scouts, Bootcamp, entrepreneurship, failed relationships, arguing with my parents, being a complete dork to my friends and having to apologize. The “suffering” brought focus to the parts of me that needed attention and molding.
Anyways, I was thinking, since we are all travelers trying to figure this all out while hurtling through space at some insane speed (want to blow your mind? Check out this article on our galactic address) I’d share.
I would love to hear your thoughts and experience, I surely don’t have the answers and can use all the help I can get.